The first day of school: a day to remember!
At the beginning of the new year, especially in the week preceding the first day of school, there are so many things to do. It’s a busy time, and sometimes the emotional impact of commencing school can be hidden beneath all the preparations.
School books need to be covered, stationery named, new shoes worn in, new lunch boxes selected, uniforms laundered, and bags packed. Phew! Finally everything is ready. Parents breathe a sigh of relief, and try to ignore their own emotional response to the new school year.
For whether we like it or not, whether we are prepared for it or not, the beginning of the school year is highly significant. It’s a time of increased excitement and apprehension – a mixture of emotions which can be difficult to express, especially for young children who have not yet experienced this annual transition to school.
Parents are not immune from the impact of this emotional time. For some it will be their first child embarking on the education adventure. For others, it may be their youngest entering Year 12. Regardless of the age or stage of each family, all will be affected. Believe me, I speak from many years of experience – as a parent, and as a teacher.
The first day of school can be overwhelming on many levels. For a younger sibling, the environment may be familiar with positive associations. Also, if children start school with a group of friends, the ‘newness’ may be reduced. Orientation visits, usually conducted at the end of the previous year, provide an opportunity for children to meet their new teacher. This visit can also reassure parents, and provide an opportunity to ask questions. Teachers also appreciate these visits, knowing that children are more confident when they are familiar with a classroom and at least some of the expectations of the school.
Some children face the extra complication of adjusting to a totally new ‘world’ at the same time as they start school. They may have shifted suburbs, states, or even countries. Each of these situations presents additional challenge, and therefore the need for extra support and care during these early days. For despite the expectation of many Year 1 children, the school experience does not all happen in a day. Have you heard the response to this familiar question: “How was your first day of school?” “I did everything today – so I don’t need to go back tomorrow!” Little do they know that there are many days ahead ...
On a positive note, starting the school year is also a time of excitement and anticipation. The holidays are over, and it’s time to face the next challenge. When parents model this positive approach, their children are able to face the transition with confidence.
Here are some important words of wisdom to remember as the ‘big day’ approaches:
- Stay calm and confident. School is a wonderful opportunity to learn and have fun at the same time.
- Be organised. This will help to keep everyone’s stress levels at a manageable level.
- Take photos. This is an important day, and it needs to be documented. You may not remember how enormous that school bag looks!
- When your child is settled, meet a friend for coffee and debrief your own emotions.
- At the end of the day, share your child’s stories and celebrate together.
- Hold on to your hat! You are participating in a life-changing moment in history – an adventure indeed.
It’s encouraging to know that thousands upon thousands of parents have survived the first day of school. You will too!
Loris Henry
Senior Counsellor – Making the Difference
School Counsellor – Brisbane Christian College (formerly Southside Christian College)
